How do you love? How does your spouse or partner know you love and care for them? How do you handle trouble, because some type of trouble (connection, money, children, life, work, parents, siblings, health) always occurs? Does your spouse or partner turn toward you or away from you?
Today’s Gottman Institute email addresses these questions.
“Some think that love is (or is not) meant to be. And when we are in the thrill of new love, it often feels like you’re going along for the ride, like it’s happening to you and not the other way around.
But what about making a choice to love someone?
Every time you turn toward your partner instead of away, that is a choice.
Every time you listen empathetically to understand your partner’s perspective—even if you disagree—that is a choice.
Every time you express a positive need to your partner, and listen and respond to their needs, that is a choice.
Being intentional, attentive, mindful, and appreciative in your relationship are choices.
In which ways do you choose to love your partner?” Gottman Institute Email dated July 17, 2018
I endeavored to turn toward my FS. My FS inevitability turned away.
Christopher Matthew
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